Marriage is a relationship based...
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Marriage is a relationship based on commitment. In America, most people marry because
they are "in love." Unfortunately, if couples count on their warm, loving feelings to
sustain the relationship, they will be sorely disappointed. Seldom can spouses fully live
up to one another's expectations. Their humanness disappoints. Their stubbornness
irritates. Their sinfulness wipes away any illusion that they are the "perfect" husband or
wife. Books on marriage offer good advice. Counselors provide helpful information and
helpful suggestions. But those in a strong marriage understand that even the best wife
will not reach her goals and even the best husband cannot communicate clearly enough
all of the time. They know that perfection and achievement and excellence are not
cornerstones of healthy marriage. Instead, they give thanks for the commitment of their
spouse to trust them from day to day, month to month, and year to year -- to trust them
enough to share their spiritual, emotional, and physical lives. And they give thanks for
God's grace in their lives that keeps their marriage intact, in spite of their individual
shortcomings and failures.
